When you start to notice a decline in your parents’ ability to care for themselves it is easy to get swept up in feelings of love, concern, and responsibility. You feel compelled to start making decisions about their future care plans. You feel you are doing what is right for your aging loved ones and are taking steps to give them the safest, healthiest life possible. But by taking total control of the situation you may leave them feeling disregarded, ignored, and even disrespected. By allowing your aging loved ones to be an active part of making home care decisions with you, you are giving them a voice and ensuring the type of home care chosen is right for them. Working together also shows that you care about how your parents feel. Maintain your close relationship rather than just making sure their care meets their basic needs.
Trying to create the best possible life for an aging loved one is on the minds of millions of Americans every day. The tips below can help you work through conversations by encouraging aging loved ones to make important decisions about their own home health care plan.
How to Involve Aging Loved Ones In Making Home Care Decisions
- Take small steps. Start with a calm, straightforward conversation about the issues you have noticed and why you think your parents should receive home care. Give them a chance to discuss their own concerns and how they feel about the idea of receiving help.
- Listen honestly. Make sure you listen carefully to everything your parents have to say and be fully engaged in the conversation. Acknowledge their thoughts and give them plenty of time to express themselves. Remember that they are participants in the decision-making process and deserve to be heard.
- Acknowledge your role. Many seniors question why they would need home care if their adult children live close-by. If you are in this situation, part of letting your parents make decisions regarding their care will be acknowledging your role. Be sure to establish clear expectations about what you are willing to do. Let them tell you what tasks they definitely want you involved in. Work together to establish a schedule that accommodates as many of their requests as possible. Be sure to also take into consideration your time and capabilities.
- Stay involved. No matter how much care you plan to provide personally, your responsibility in your parents’ home care services does not stop with hiring the care provider. Look for resources for help in finding and bringing a caregiver into the home. Stay involved in the care by getting to know the caregiver. Discuss your parents’ progress. Ecourage your parents to tell you about their care experience so you can make changes if the need arises.
Seniors Wish to Remain Autonomous
As much as you love your parents and want to do what you feel is right for them, it is important to remember that they are individuals who value their autonomy. They deserve respect and full consideration in every step of their care planning. Imagine the stress you would feel if your child suddenly started telling you what to do. Making decisions for you and managing all aspects of your life. This type of stress can place a major strain on your relationship with your aging parents. Plus, it can make it even more difficult to ensure they get the kind of care they need.
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